In the hurry rush of modern parenting, we often forget to be mindful or present. Even when the hectic day calms down, I’ve been known to block out others (sorry wife) and pay more attention to my phone or my computer. Not being mindful is a bad habit, and it’s one that is hard to lose.
The problem with not being fully present is that we are living vicarious lives instead of our own. Whether those lives be on the internet as blog posts in our reader feed, on the TV with the latest episode of Big Brother, or in our heads as jumbled anxious thoughts, we aren’t connecting with the ones we love the most.
It’s easy to get distracted.
Meditation is a great way to center yourself, but I rarely do it. I’d like to teach my daughters how to meditate. They could probably use a lesson or two in impulse control.
It’s also good to be aware of your own emotions and distractions. I’ve been preoccupied mentally and emotionally with the stress of changes that will soon happen, like my five year old going into kindergarten in two weeks. Time to relax and center myself.
Most importantly, mindfulness doesn’t happen unless you make an effort to let go. So, I’m going to start by purposefully leaving my phone at home today. I know that I will instinctively grab for it, and at those times, I will remember that I’m not being present.